Re: hello again

I keep my fingers crossed and pray that all will turn out well.  I don't feel bad to say that I have lived my life for Jim and for Philip.  It is hard, but that is why I am trying to also get some balance back in my life and go out once in a while with some good girlfriends to get a nice break and to get some much-needed fun and perspective. 

Jim needs to grow up a bit in this area of parenting and I appreciate your ear yesterday.  He needs to stop being afraid to parent and just "man up" to the task or all will be lost.  Philip is a great boy and human being with a lot of raw potential.  We will support and love him the best we can and pray all turns out well and am sure it will.

Love you and thank you!!!

On Sun, Oct 23, 2011 at 4:09 PM, EILEEN HALL <leethall@att.net> wrote:

Dear Jim and Gloria,
You are both wonderful parents. Sometimes it's much easier to say yes to Philip than no. But, keep in mind... that at this time you have the control.

Eventually, it's going to be a battle of wills  everyday as he will revolt, against your control.

Jim and I had our days when they broke our hearts. Raising boys is very hard. It's a big worry. We held our breath that they didn't get into serious trouble with the law and rein their lives.

It's going to be a rough road ahead for the next couple of years. The best advice I will give both of you is stick together and back each other. Be each others best friends.
Don't try to be a buddy.
I think Pat finally realized he was an enabler.

Philip may become the enemy. Don't let him destroy your relationship.

At times you won't agree but disagree in private. Don't let him manipulate, which he will try to do. Back each other up.

Talk to Barbara when you need up to date advice. They did everything right and still Luke is a loser. Go figure.

Or, talk to Rich he has three to contend with. God help him.  I bet he could give you some pointers.

I am praying that Philip won't go wrong. That he won't give you a terrible teen time. And will come out a winner. Love Mom

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Sincerely,

Jim Hall

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